سؤال : Assalamalaikum I wanna know if the wife is mad at her husband because he swore at her in a very mean way & has not apologized. He has hurt her dignity & self respect. Does the wife has the right to expect an apology from the husband. The wife is so badly hurt that she doesn’t feel like sleeping on one bed. Please let me know how correct is the wife? JazakallahuKhairan
جواب :There is nothing wrong really in expecting an apology from your husband .But you should pardon him unconditionaly.So that the almighty allah also forgives you unconditionaly on the judgment-day.As said by rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam –
“who breaks the tie with you ,you join the tie with him .Who optresses you, you forgive him . who behaves with you badly, you return him a soft.-musnade Aahmad, hadeeth no 17272
In really for the peace and happiness of a family it is important that, everyone have to see how much of the rights of others he is fulfiling. Not how much others are fulfiling his rights .We are not supporting the act of your husband rather whatever he did was wrong. But here is what you really can do from the shariah point of view .
Particularly the right of husband is very sensitive . The wife should always keep him pleased. Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said-
If I would order anyone to prosptrate(sijdah) for anyone(except Allah) I would order the women to prostrate her husband-sunane Tirmiji, hadeeth no 1159.
For the reason you have write it will not be legitimate for you to separate the bed . Because in the hadeeth it has been forbidden severely. Even the angels keep cursing on her . But you can make your husband convinced with respect and cool head that, his conduct on that particular act was not correct.
